Frequently Asked Questions

Domestic abuse is a serious and widespread problem that has been difficult to solve, largely due to reluctance on the part of victims and their families to discuss the issue. We believe it is important for people to understand the facts surrounding domestic violence. The following are some of the questions we are commonly asked. If you have a question about domestic abuse, you can e-mail us at mail@interimplace.com or call us at:

North Shelter: (905) 676-8515
South Shelter: (905) 403-0864
Transitional Support Program: (905) 676-0257

Why do women stay in abusive relationships?

There are many reasons why a woman might stay in, or return to, an abusive environment, including:

fear of reprisal

reluctant to break up the family

concern about children’s welfare and/or about losing custody

lack of money, job skills and/or opportunities

concern about pets, property, possessions

fear of being alone

cultural, religious beliefs

pressure from family, friends

feelings of shame and embarrassment

believe abuser’s promises to change

Women attempt to leave an average of six to seven times before making the final move away from an abusive relationship.

Why don’t more women report cases of assault to the police?

Victims may not report assault for several reasons including fear of retaliation, lack of knowledge about legal rights, and concern that they won’t be believed. They may feel intimidated by the criminal justice system or worry that the police and courts will not protect them adequately.

What can I do to help someone who is being abused?

If you know someone who is a victim of domestic violence, encourage her to contact the local women’s shelter. Experienced, empathetic counsellors will be able to provide confidential information and advice and help her to develop a safety plan.

In addition, you can help by offering support, information and assistance in accessing community programs.

Let her know you are there to help.

Listen to her without being critical or judgmental.

Assure her that she is not to blame for the abuse and that she is not alone.

Help her provide for any immediate medical and personal needs and make sure that she and her children are safe.

Gather and pass on information about relevant community programs and assistance: shelters, sexual assault centres, legal aid, financial assistance, etc.

Offer to play a role in her safety plan which might involve: providing emergency shelter; providing transportation; safeguarding pre-packed luggage, documents and/or money that would be required in an emergency.

Give her time to make her own decisions and respect her confidentiality.

If you have a question about any aspect of domestic violence, please Contact Us. (905) 403-0864 or (905) 676-8515 - Crisis Lines for the South and North Shelters. The Transitional Support Program can be reached at (905) 676-0257